Gift giving, decorating the house, and caroling can bring joy to many people this time of year, while others may wish to ignore the holidays completely.

For those grieving a loved one, their versions of celebrating the holiday may involve honoring those they have lost with a new tradition and sharing memories of holidays’ past with others. Some might change the typical plans like taking a trip with friends. Admissions Coordinator Nurse with St. Croix Hospice Dan Scheuermann says it’s okay not to like the holidays, but it’s important to prioritize your mental health, “You know, there’s nothing wrong with not liking a certain part of the year. You know Christmas to me is winter, you know a lot of people don’t like this time of year because of the weather and whatever else. But when it comes (to) internal it’s a matter of recognizing why we don’t like it. Do we not like it because it’s a bunch of traveling that’s a hassle, or are we doing it and just going through the motions for other people? That’s one thing but is it that we don’t like it because it just makes us grieve harder, then it becomes more of a problem and we probably should be looking at why is it a form of depression. Should we be looking out there for assistance from someone?”

If you experiencing emotional distress this holiday season you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 24/7 at 1-800-273-8255. You can also call or text the Iowa Helpline at 1-855-800-1239.